How do you assert yourself?

Do you remember your last breakup?

 

Everyone around you starts helping you with words like "don't think about her and move on" or "she/he is not perfect for us." There may be or not a valid reason, but still understanding intellectuals is easier than emotionally. 

In the same situation, we need emotionally to face guilt, regret, anger, shame, grief, pain, and hidden emotions of which we are not aware. 

 

 

Intellectual VS Emotions 

 

We know getting high involves drinking alcohol or smoking, but there is another way to get high: constantly seeking quotes or any intellectual vocabulary that helps us to cover up our emotions so that it can at least help us to feel better to some extent. That is why, when we hear any motivational video, we feel better, and sometime later, we come back to normal. Maybe intellectually we are so keen on our solution, but it's very hard to implement in our daily lives. because we don't understand the emotions ourselves.

 

Let's take one more example:

 

We know how important it is to take care of our physical health by exercising and consuming nutritious food. We can give a list of reasons and benefits for a healthy diet and regular exercise, but most of the time we aren't able to make it happen. It might be that you say it's a matter of habit, priority, or personal interest. But underneath, there is one potential aspect we are mostly unaware of, and that is the emotions that are playing with us.

Joining the gym and consuming a healthy diet brings us to uncertainty and our mind freaks out the uncertainty. Going to the gym daily in the same routine makes us bored, which we start hating in the long run.

 

So somewhere we need to little calm and collect our thoughts and feel the moment to understand better what actually going on inside our body and mind emotionally.