The Pain: Part- 2

You lay down still on the bed and are unable to move or speak. You are trapped in the silent prison of your own mind. You feel every sensation in your body, but you have no control over them. You feel a sharp pain in your head, like a needle piercing your brain. You feel your heart beating slower and harder, squeezing your chest with every contraction. You feel a cold sensation spreading from your heart to the rest of your body, like ice in your veins. You feel waves of energy coursing through your body, but they only make you more aware of your helplessness. You feel it in your bones, your muscles, and your nerves. You feel it in your heart, your lungs, and your brain. Every part of your body is affected by this pain. You feel tears rolling down your cheeks, but you can’t wipe them away. You look calm and composed on the outside, but inside you are screaming for relief. You want to scream until you feel something again. But you can’t, because your body won’t let you. You want to escape from your body and let out all the emotions that have been bottled up. You don’t know how long this will last, or if it will ever end. You are alone with your pain. The person who makes you calm is no longer with you. The people around you do not understand you. You have lost yourself in this agony.

In a while, you don’t know when you will fall asleep. When you wake up, you feel a bit more alert than before. You feel some peace, some lightness, and comfort. The pain has faded away for a while. You started feeling a sense of calmness, but now you are afraid of what will happen if it occurs again. And eventually, it will, because we are designed to feel the pain.

 In a previous article, I wrote that every pain has a source. For physical pain, the source is usually easy to identify and comprehend, but for emotional pain, it is much harder.

Let’s explore the source of emotional pain.

Recall any past event that causes you pain. As human beings, we are not fully present at the moment; therefore, we struggle to accept and acknowledge things as they are. When the unfortunate event occurred, we formed a belief for ourselves. Those beliefs became the story of our lives, which is served us until now. Over time, we accumulated those stories about ourselves until they began to harm us. Now those stories have become our realities. It’s very easy to rationalize those things, but on an emotional level, we have to face many challenges.


The pain we experience is influenced by our story. Our story guides how we react to our pain. Some of us try to avoid it, but it only demands more attention. Some of us try to resist it, but it only comes back stronger. Some of us try to manipulate it, but it only gets worse. Some of us try to suppress it, but it grows more intense. The more we embrace it, the more peaceful it becomes

We cannot escape our pain, but we can choose how we connect to it. The pain will be there, but we can choose how to cope. Pain is unavoidable, but suffering is a choice.

But what about the pain that has no cure? We need to embrace that pain and learn to live with it.

Every pain serves a purpose.



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