Am I Lier?

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How are you ?.
I am doing great !! What about you? 

Maybe we miss the morning bus, or we had a terrible night's sleep or we saw our ex got engaged with another cool person but still we are okay. Who gives the f**k. That is also right who gives it? 

The truth is WE DO. 

We need to tell ourselves a little more of the truth because we pay too high a price for our lies. Through our deceptions, we cut ourselves off from possibilities of growth. We shut off large portions of our minds and end up uncreative, tetchy, and defensive. 

We choose to be okay because Perfectionism strives for us. How can be we in misery if everyone around us is so perfectly living?  



Is everyone PERFECT?




We think (me too) everyone has beautiful life and enjoys the luxuries of life. Sharing a great picture on Instagram or putting the status with cool clothes and a bunch of unknown friends.

Other times the beloved person rejects us due to choosing the other amazing person and we think they are so PERFECT in their life and we are in a terrible.  

But the truth is there is nothing PERFECT person. There is merely a differently tricky one. Everyone has their set of problems. 

We don't know the person but we know the human being. 


 

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